Strings Of Pearls: Dealing With Life's Adversities
Written By Empress Of Pearl Powder
Sarah Anderson February 12, 2023
We all face trauma, adversities, and life challenges that make us angry and stress us out. Life is not a bed of roses, nor is it a bed of thorns. It consists of ups and downs, happiness and sorrows, victories and defeats. There are mountaintop moments and moments in deep valleys of despair. That's why we have to prepare ourselves and become resilient for the oncoming raging storms.
People usually adapt, over time, to lifes challenging, stressful situations because of resilience. When life hits you and batters you from all sides, resilience will help you stand strong and bounce back from almost all emotional upsets and traumatic events.
The truth is, life is basically what we make it. In other words, it's how we deal with our emotions.
Here are some strings of pearls to strengthen you so you can emerge from the pit of despair and come out even stronger than before.
1. Armor Up
It's easy to stand strong when the bright sun of stability warmly shines, but when we are cut under by circumstances, emotional uproars emerge.
When those whipping winds of adversity come to blow you to smithereens, stand strong and call its bluff. Anger will only make the winds blow the more and more; screaming and yelling will only make them laugh in your face. Those winds are strong, you have be stronger.
Don't become overwhelmed nor yield to temptation. Dig deep in your heart and find the courage to hold on. Bend when the winds come blowing, bend with them, and let go. By bending you will become stronger.
And pray against those winds when they begin to roar and when in they are in your mist. Stay calm till the winds subside, and they will, if you don't yield to their temptations.
2. Induce Self-Care
In this ever changing, challenging world, everyone needs to take some "Me Time." This is not a selfish act, it actually helps you deal with the issues of life and become a better person.
If we don't take time out to take care of ourselves, we will not be any good for anyone else.
Take time to pamper yourself. Yes, pampering is good. It helps you relax so you can release the stresses of life.
Pamper yourself with a massage. Treat yourself to a spa day. Take a bubble bath. Spend some time in the good ole outdoors. Listen to your favorite music. Read some poetry. Treat yourself to a good snack when you're out shopping. Get a motel room with an indoor pool and take a dip. Do some gardening. Practice gratitude.
Do something that will nourish you, calm you, and help you re-set.
3. Limit Your Social Media
Studies show that people who spend a significant amount of time on social media experience increased anxiety, depression, loneliness, decreased self-esteem, and other health challenges.
Social media can bring about hot coals of suffering. If friends and relatives are posting their opinion continually on their feed and yours, consider taking a social media detox and drop those hot coals of suffering. This is especially true if you find yourself getting riled.
Set limits on your social media time. Set your own rules. Use a time-limiting tool. Take a deep breath before logging on. If nothing works, deactivate or delete your social media sites.
4. Ground Yourself
Prioritize your physical wellness via sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
Engage in practices designed to help you ground yourself, like walking in the grass, laying in the sand with the sun shinning bright, or swimming in the sea. Practice self-kindness, visualize your favorite place, plan an activity, touch something soothing and comforting.
Ground yourself and get a serotonin boost with root vegetables. During stressful times, healthy levels of serotonin, a chemical produced by nerve cells that plays a key role in our mood, may help us feel more emotionally stable and happy.
Studies show that eating plenty of fruit and veggies can have a positive effect on our mood. They can even help to prevent and treat mental health conditions such as depression.
Grounding yourself reduces anxiety, quiets your mind, reduces inflammation, and improves sleep. When you ground yourself you will feel how it improves your mental state of mind.
5. Connect With Others
Connecting with others is something that's good for everyone, but it's especially helpful for those who isolate themselves. When people deal with abandonment, trauma, toxic relationships, or other emotional damage, they often build walls around their hearts to protect themselves. They suffer silently and alone.
It can be very difficult reaching out to people and socialize, let alone trying to create meaningfully connections when troubled or grieved. But, social connections are actually a critical part of reducing emotional distress.
Try connecting with someone over the next coming days. Call someone you haven't talked to for awhile and re-connect. Don't text or message them, you need sincere, verbal communication.
Ask them to meet you at your favorite coffee shop, or invite them over to your home for a cold glass of home-made lemonade. Being around like-minded people who you enjoy can be a nourishing reset for trauma and anxiety.
When we stand strong and engage in the good things in life, we improve our personal, physical and mental well-being. This is a powerful way to heal the anger and pain we've absorbed, and in turn will lead to peace of mind and peace in our hearts.
If all else fails, Jesus said, "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest" Matthew 11:28. And you can bet your bottom dollar on that.